When we are born into this existence, we first see through the eyes of a little child, and that "inner child" stays with us throughout our lives, no matter how “grown-up” and powerful we become.
Chances are that you have heard the term inner child or wounded child at some point in your life. We all have an inner child that has been hurt, abandoned, shamed or neglected in the past. “I believe that this neglected, wounded inner child of the past is the major source of human misery," says Bradshaw That child’s pain, anger and grief live on within us and it is important to face it, communicate with her/him so we can start forgiving ourselves and those who co-created the wounds of this child. If we do so, in return we will be able to fall in love with every part that makes us whole. I believe this is the foundation for any person who wants to heal and live through their wholeness.
As I have mentioned in the article Awaken the Master Within, healing is simply a natural byproduct of letting go and falling in Love with yourself. Through a series of exercises and practices we are able to dive deep into our child’s wounds and rescue those parts of us that once were broken and left behind. When we do this practice we are able to let go of the illusions that were created in those circumstances by taking responsibility through forgiveness. Realizing that no matter what happened to that child in the past, that child is now safe and loved by you. Because it is only you that can love, listen, communicate and protect your inner child.
Like anything else in life, this is a practice and with discipline will be your ally. Many of us have spent over 20+ years without communicating with the wounded child. This child may be scared, alienated and for some it may feel like it is “not even there”, but trust me when I say he/she is there and it is waiting to be seen and loved.
“The cry we hear from deep in our hearts, says Thich Nhat Hanh, comes from the wounded child within. Healing this inner child’s pain will transform negative emotions.”
I suggest that you start communicating with your inner child through the beautiful practice of Ho’ponopono. If you want to learn more about this practice you can check out Balancing Chakras with Ho’ponopono.
Now, let’s practice. I suggest you sit down in a comfortable position in a place were there is peace and quite and you know you will not be disturbed. Open your heart and put the intention to communicate with your inner child. Start by talking directly to the child with the language of love, saying, “Hi little one, I am here and I want to communicate with you. Is that ok?” Please listen to your child, he/she will let you know what it is feeling. Your intuition will be the child’s voice, pay attention. It is ok to cry with your child, don’t be surprised if this situation comes up. This is a beautiful opportunity to release what no longer serves you and your child. Once you have open communication with the child go ahead and do Ho’ponopono.
1. Say I am Sorry- Here you can simply express I am sorry or you can add to this statement whatever comes to you. For example “I am sorry in the past, I left you alone. I went away from you. Now I am going to embrace you” or “I am sorry, you didn’t deserve this.”
2. Please Forgive Me- Again you can just say Please Forgive Me or something like “Please forgive me, I have been so busy. I have neglected you, and now I have learned a way to come back to you.”
3. I Love You- This may be the most powerful statement you can say to your child. Your child patiently has been waiting to be loved by you. You can say I love you or you may add something extra like “I love you, I hear you. We’ll work through it. It’s going to be okay.”
4. Thank You- You may say a simple thank you or something along the lines of “Thank you for protecting me, you did your best.”
This is a simple and easy way to start a relationship with your inner child. Personally when I speak to my inner child, I embrace my belly area with my hands because this is where I feel she resides. For example you may imagine her/his energy sitting in front of you, there is no wrong way of doing this. But know that for healing to take place you have to talk to your child everyday at least 5- 10 minutes and ideally several times a day. The little child has been left alone for so long, that is why you need to begin this practice right away.
When you dance, invite your child to dance, when you go see a sunset invite the child to enjoy it with you. Start inviting your child to the things you do for fun. Those may be simple actions like contemplating a sunset or inviting him/her when you play with your own children. Every time you choose to do actions in joy remember to invite your child. Your inner child will help you to enjoy the moment as much as you did when you were a kid. Your child will bring the awareness of being fully present in the moment, so you can enjoy it to the fullest. And in return this child will experience the unconditional love you have for him/her. If you do that for a few weeks or a few months, the wounded child in you will experience healing.
Go back and take care of yourself. The wounded child in you needs you. Your suffering needs you to acknowledge it. Go home and be there for all these things. Do everything in mindfulness so you can really be there, so you can Love.
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